Chrysalis says: Scripture teaches us to phileo our husbands (Titus 2:4). This is a human brotherly kind of affection and love. For most men, phileo translates into side-by-side companionship. What do you two love to do together that fosters good feelings between you?
LoverBrain's is truly my friend. We do love to be together...and lately that means when we are very tired. Being the parents of two toddlers is exhausting...and so we are...exhausted! We still enjoy the rare times alone together just side by side. We enjoy watching "Good Eats" together. It's a show that combines my love of cooking and his love of science...so...there ya have it folks! We enjoy working crossword puzzles together. We enjoy reading together...oddly enough I even count it as romantic...the companionship and quiet of it!
I feel that planned/scheduled date nights are important to our marriage...because it preserves our friendship! When the majority of our time is spent exhausted and scrambling to double team the kids through meals, washings, bedtimes, etc. it seems we lose each other. It is nice to get away for a few hours and reconnect..."Oh yeah, I remember you!" I'm tellin' ya folks...it's the best money I've ever budgeted! It's even more fun when he plans the dates...check out my Date Guru!
We share our dreams (figurative and literal) with each other. I love to talk about my future plans. What am I dreaming of doing to the house. Hokey retirement dreams about being like my grandparents and walking early in the morning together. Oooo...I had the weirdest dream last night...and laughing together. Speaking of which...I was talking to Darren about this post...we had a rare Sunday afternoon lunch alone cuz both kids fell asleep in the van on the way home from church... and he was sharing how he actually remembered one of his dreams...I'll share it...
He had a sort of science fiction dream (gotta love my LoverBrains, eh?)...and there were worms eating cows like in Dune and he talked to me in his dream about being upset and freaked out by it and I said something like, "Hey, it's okay they eat things like that all the time in Italy!" HA HA HA...oh that is so funny...cuz I'm totally into exotic foods...LoverBrains, um...not so much! That is totally something I would say to him while watching something squishy being consumed...or whole cows eaten by worms...snort, he he he!
Oh, sigh...*wipe tears from eye corners*...Remember you're friends...Remember why you fell in love...Remember to work on the friendship! Married friendship makes the exhausting times of life bearable! Trust me...zzzzzz!