I'm trying to be a good example in everything I do...because I know my children are watching our marriage...how we love each other. It's extremely overwhelming to think of all they see...the good, the bad....the ugly. I need to be careful in my words and actions to show my daughter how to love, respect, honor, submit, listen, the list goes on and on. I don't feel able...but God is able!
"Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight." Prov. 3:5-6
My mother's best marriage advice is sort of the unwritten extension to "leave and cleave." No matter what, I'm not allowed to talk to her about my husband. No matter what else I may "vent" to her about, I'm not allowed to say anything bad about my husband...because we are the new team and must work it out together. She also has been a huge advocate of 1 Cor. 7:5...
"Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control."She'll probably be shocked I blogged about this... Sorry, Mom! It is something that maybe some Moms and daughters don't speak of openly but she's been open in telling me that sex is a big part of marriage. It's not a suggestion, it's a command. The right attitude really goes a long way! I'm so glad that she can encourage me in this area. Exhausted Mom's need to be reminded. I only hope that I am blessed with an open relationship with my daughter when she's a married lady.
My mother-in-law has passed on some valuable truths lately...of which she's probably unaware. God has handed them some trials lately and it's been interesting to see the effect on their marriage. They have decidedly drawn together to form a team. They have been doing downright cute things for each other. You know, ewww....I mean, awww things! They have always been a caring and gentle couple but lately they seem to do specific little caring things for each other. It is a good example to me as a busy MomE...because I get going so fast it's hard to remember to slow down and be gentle and caring with the little things.
I remember reading in one of favorite MomE books, "Hold You, Mommy" by the dynamic Hilliard/ Autry sisters... about the importance of surrounding yourself with solid Godly girlfriends. If you have sisters that'd be great...but in my case I don't...sooo...Sometimes kids are more comfortable talking with another lady. It's important that they have good relationships with their youth leaders and grandmothers too. I definitely don't want a whole lot of "peer collaboration" on these points. I want my daughter to know where to look in the Bible for these answers...because it is the source for all TRUTH!
John 17:13-17 “But now I come to You; and these things I speak in the world so that they may have My joy made full in themselves. I have given them Your word; and the world has hated them, because they are not of the world, even as I am not of the world. I do not ask You to take them out of the world, but to keep them from the evil one. They are not of the world, even as I am not of the world. Sanctify them in the truth; Your word is truth."