Marriage Monday: Stepping Back...

For we are God's workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do. Eph. 2:10

As I've mentioned before...I'm a real DOER...and that's not such a bad thing...usually. I'm energetic, bubbly and generally full of laughter (even if it's just with myself). However, it's when I start to justify using gifts and time that God hasn't prepared for me...that the problems come in. Suddenly, I'm impatient and angry, disrespectful and domineering.

I find it so interesting that the very minute my Loverbrain's priorities at work or home get off...I am fully aware (and generally barking about it). However, when my priorities are off...I justify things instead. *sarcasm* Of course, all of my good works are just me using my gifts for God.* I can even turn this around to make my husband look like the un-spiritual one. Oh, the shame of that just kills me...
The truth is that FIRST THINGS MUST COME FIRST. God, Darren, Children....then Family, church, etc. No more doing all those things that I thought were fun, or needed to be done, or that I could do better, or sort of fit in the cracks of my time schedule. No more justifying that if I get it done on "my own time (ie. when he's a work)" that it doesn't affect him or he doesn't need to give input on my involvement in those areas.

God does want me to do good works and use the gifts He's given me...but He has also commanded me to put my husband and children first...before those other good things...be they Bible study, choir or banquet. It's time to STEP BACK...and re-examine. If I cannot be a respectful and submissive wife while juggling other things...I need to question if I should be doing them at all...for now.

Maybe you need to step back. If you're anything like me, it is very difficult to focus on being supportive, submissive and respectful if you are busy busy...flying everywhere.

So, do you need to step back into line with God's plan? Are you doing the good works He has laid out for you to do? Are you putting those first things first!?

"Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything." Eph. 5:22-24

"She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue." Prov. 31:25-26

"However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. " Eph. 5:33


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